Re: letter from T hurts, trying to move on fast » Happyflower

Posted by crushedout on April 4, 2008, at 11:08:43

In reply to Re: letter from T hurts, trying to move on fast, posted by Happyflower on April 4, 2008, at 5:58:32

thanks hf. i agree she is letting me know that the lines are open. it hurts because whenever you lose someone it hurts. and getting a letter like that is a painful reminder that (a) she exists and (b) she is only my ex-T and doesn't really care about me as a "regular" person might.
perhaps that is an "unresolved" issue, in that i always find it hurtful that i am not really *in* her life, that she of course loves her family more than she loves me. but i spent YEARS trying to resolve that issue and got NOWHERE.
so i have to disagree that i need to work it out with her or another T. i've had it with therapy. i'm done. it was NOT WORKING.
sorry for being so emphatic. i am just frustrated.
> It seems to me she is keeping the lines open in case you changed your mind and wanted to go back to her or that she can help you find another T. It seems like a good thing to me.
> I think the hurt your are feeling is because of unresolved issues that could be worked out with her in the termination process or with another T.
> Tare care crushed out, I know how much it hurts to leave therapy with someone you cared about even if it was for the best or maybe I am projecting here.
> HF

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letter from T hurts, trying to move on fast crushedout 4/3/08
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Re: i feel sick with grief when i think about it Dinah 4/3/08
Re: One more thing ... Annierose 4/3/08
Re: i feel sick with grief when i think about it » Annierose crushedout 4/3/08
Re: One more thing ... crushedout 4/3/08
Re: One more thing ... » crushedout Annierose 4/3/08
Re: i feel sick with grief when i think about it » Dinah crushedout 4/3/08
Re: One more thing ... » Annierose crushedout 4/3/08
if that sounded sarcastic, it was unintended. (nm) crushedout 4/3/08
Re: i feel sick with grief when i think about it » crushedout Dinah 4/3/08
Re: i feel sick with grief when i think about it crushedout 4/3/08
Re: i feel sick with grief when i think about it » crushedout Dinah 4/3/08
Re: letter from T hurts, trying to move on fast Happyflower 4/4/08
Re: letter from T hurts, trying to move on fast » Happyflower crushedout 4/4/08
Re: letter from T hurts, trying to move on fast » crushedout raisinb 4/4/08
Re: letter from T hurts, trying to move on fast » raisinb crushedout 4/4/08
p.s. » crushedout crushedout 4/4/08
oops above post for raisinb (nm) crushedout 4/4/08
p.p.s. » raisinb crushedout 4/4/08
Re: letter from T hurts, trying to move on fast » crushedout raisinb 4/4/08
I emailed her crushedout 4/4/08
oops crushedout 4/4/08
Re: p.s. » crushedout raisinb 4/4/08
Re: letter from T hurts, trying to move on fast » raisinb crushedout 4/4/08
Re: i feel sick with grief when i think about it » Annierose Phillipa 4/4/08
Re: I emailed her » crushedout DAisym 4/4/08
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Re: feeling a bit better now » crushedout Abby Cunningham 4/9/08

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