Posted by Daisym on March 29, 2008, at 1:26:58
In reply to This Time I Blew It, posted by mair on March 28, 2008, at 22:10:11
I don't think so. I think based on the conversation you've been having about her thinking about you outside of sessions, this may have been an unconscious test to see if she'd miss you if you didn't show up, especially when it is not your regular time. It is a classic kind of "am I important enough and do you still have time for me?" kind of scenario.
And of course, all of it is primarily unconscious. A few sessions ago, I was remembering the first time I ever called and asked for a session "sooner" than the one scheduled. I'd had this horrible fight with my husband over the weekend and it was early on Monday when my therapist called back. He made time for me that afternoon and I remember being really surprised that he'd do that. When I said this, my therapist kind of smiled and said, "I'm glad I past the test." I said, "Do you think I was testing you?" And he answered, "Not on purpose. But yes, you were sort of seeing if I really had time to deal with what was happening in your life and if I was really going to be available to you - thank goodness I wasn't booked up that day!"
So I think we all do it, and we do it over and over again.
Can you hear me now? How about now? and now...
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