Posted by Daisym on March 22, 2008, at 23:21:51
In reply to no hugs, no nothing, posted by sunnydays on March 22, 2008, at 11:10:23
Sunny,
I'm really sorry about all of this. I can't imagine having my safe place taken away like that. I'm sure it makes you wish your mom didn't even know you were in therapy. Is it possible to get her to think you've stopped going? I rarely think lying is the best answer but perhaps in this case?Once my x-husband lost it completely with me over therapy. He said my therapist was changing me and threatened to give him a piece of his mind. When I said, "he'll never talk to you" my x's reply was that he would call and make an appointment under a false name. Scared me to death - but when I told my therapist he said he'd dealt with angry husbands before and not to worry. I felt invaded though and it took a long time to rebuild the safety.
Just go slow - and try to find ways to feel safe. Your therapist is good and will be there for you.
poster:Daisym
thread:819383
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