Posted by MissK on January 13, 2008, at 21:50:39
In reply to Re: Agonizing over T Relationships *trigger + rant* » MissK, posted by muffled on January 13, 2008, at 17:31:35
Yes, it has stirred up, what I think, a very good discussion. I know all the points of view have been insightful for myself.
>I 'tested' my T ALOT B4 I came to trust. I never leaned on noone B4. So to do this was hard.
So this explains some why relationship is SO intense.This almost sounds like setting up an adversarial relationship, kind of like asking for relationship problems with the T. I respect though that that is what you needed to do for yourself in order to achieve the trust you have developed.
>My T says she is setting an example of a relationship that it is safe to trust.
This is where I differ from yourself and perhaps others. Sure, I needed a little time to get comfortable with my T and sense that I could trust her to be open with my problems, but I really did approach her as going to see a professional and just letting it spill. It didn't take too long to recognize she was competent and caring and so it didn't take too long for me to do/say what needed to be done/said. Again though, I respect that others need to work out some other stuff too before they ever get to the point of spilling.
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