Posted by seldomseen on January 14, 2008, at 11:53:23
In reply to Re: Great post! » seldomseen, posted by MissK on January 13, 2008, at 22:24:04
It may be something that you never understand and that's okay. But it happens and it is a part of the therapeutic process for a bunch of us.
For me stopping my feelings would have been a very bad move on my part. I spent a good chunk of my life keeping everything in check and never really felt much of anything for anybody.
As it turns out, my therapist was the ideal person to put all of my crap on. He was there, he was consistent. Most importantly though, because he didn't bring any of his own baggage to the relationship, I could deal with my own. I could acknowledge how I felt, develop strategies to deal with the hurt that were me exclusive, act out, miss him, be needy - you know all that stuff that can really push other people away.
It was like practising in front of a mirror before a speech. Looking back on it, it was kind of cool.
Anyway, I'm really glad you are happy with the way your therapy is going.
Seldom.
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