Posted by rskontos on December 14, 2007, at 8:57:25
In reply to Re: t said the F word possible trigger ?, posted by antigua3 on December 14, 2007, at 7:16:24
Llursie, my t and I had this discussing too. She said right now you are still mad at your parents and that is ok. She said forgiveness is not for them it is for you. It doesn't not excuse them for what they did as that is NOT excuseable. They were the adults and so therefore were supposed to take care of you, love you and nurture and protect you . They did not. Forgiving them does not take away the guilt of that crime not the cruelty of it. It allows you to heal. It is only for you I ask you to consider it. It will take you further in your development as a whole person. You don't have to love them, honor you r mothers memory or feel anything for them but in forgiving them you will learn to forgive yourself.
I am not there yet either. I am just sharing with you her words.
I understand it intellitectually not emotionally yet.
rk
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