Posted by lovelorn on December 13, 2007, at 19:14:00
In reply to t said the F word possible trigger ?, posted by llurpsienoodle on December 13, 2007, at 18:44:38
>I feel like if I forgive someone then I absolve them of responsibility and then it becomes my fault. Like I become more tarnished via forgiving them.
It is interesting you associate forgiving with it ending up being more your fault.
Oftentimes when I have difficulty with certain words or concepts of words, I find it helps to look up the word in the dictionary and really read the meaning of the word.
To forgive:
1 a: to give up resentment of or claim to requital for <forgive an insult> b: to grant relief from payment of <forgive a debt>
2: to cease to feel resentment against (an offender)Forgiveness: = : the act of forgiving
Forgiving:
1 : willing or able to forgive
2 : allowing room for error or weaknessNo where in there does it mention that you become more at fault or them less responsible for what happened. Maybe something to talk to your T about on why you feel that way. I hope you will find resolution.
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