Posted by antigua3 on December 14, 2007, at 7:16:24
In reply to t said the F word possible trigger ?, posted by llurpsienoodle on December 13, 2007, at 18:44:38
I agree with many others. I so wanted to "forgive" my father so I could get over what he did to me. That put me in such a bind that I jumped right to forgiveness and didn't deal with the intermediate steps of assigning blame (and forgiving myself) and anger.
Somehow or other, to me forgiveness assigns me the responsibility, and doesn't place adequate responsibility on my father. So, at this point, forgiveness is not my responsibility. That said, and it probably doesn't make sense, I'm still stuck in forgiving him and not dealing with the other steps.
antigua
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