Posted by muffled on December 8, 2007, at 13:22:31
In reply to Re: not feeling close **abuse trigger?..... long, posted by Daisym on December 8, 2007, at 11:45:53
*That post of Daisys is SO cool.
Its SO true for me.
Thanks daisy.
SD maybe it can help you too?>The other thing that happens to me frequently is that when I'm really trying to tell him something that is upsetting but I can't get to it, and then he says, "let's leave it for now" -- I feel dropped. And sometimes scolded. There is relief from the adult side that wants to push it all away but the little kid feelings are abandoned by us both and I get angry and sad. Especially if it happens at the end of the week.
*THATS IT. Crumb I feel so dumb, I really think thats whats happening. Duuuuhhh. I think that one of my kids gets furious bout it. OMG, thats it. I think it is. She feels dropped, mebbe a little rejected. Then she gets mad.
Almost always when we talk about this it comes down to me wanting to be rescued by him - rescued from the memories and rescued from my struggle for the right words. I want him to talk and tell me what I'm feeling, make the connections and then fix it. But it just doesn't work that way.
*Sigh. I just want T to magically make it go away and then I don't even goto go there. I want HER to figure it out FOR me, cuz i lazy and I don't wanna go there. I want her to magically just figger it, and then it magically goes away and don't bother us no more.
And he has said that sometimes he wants to rescue me from what is clearly painful, so he might move us away from something too soon,and he needs to watch his own feelings around that.
*EXACTLY, I notice at the slightest sign of discomfort my T tends to back off....I should ask her bout that. I dunno why she do that, cuz really, I not so bothered. Its weird, I may LOOK bothered, but in my head, I dunno, but its no big deal in my head. I dunno why that is. Like I kinda freaked a coupla weeks ago, but it don't bother me, no big deal, whatever. Weird. Anyhow I digress.
Mebbe I copy and send in this post to T if noone minds.
Thx,
M
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