Posted by Dinah on December 6, 2007, at 10:31:53
In reply to Re: when my analyst begins talking..., posted by twinleaf on December 6, 2007, at 0:14:28
Yes, but I think you need to give yourself credit. You're able to make good use of the silences, to open yourself to them.
Silences always seem like expectations to me. Or signs that I'm not using therapy. I frantically rush to fill them, or fold my arms and stubbornly refuse to fill them.
I do remember once when I was very upset that my therapist started talking to me about those items in his office that I was staring at. Very gently. Apparently everything in his office is there for a reason. He was explaining the symbolism and inviting me to hold them.
I didn't respond all that well. I refused to hold them. Yet still, after all this time, I remember that brief incident in a way I might not remember exchanges of far greater depth.
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