Posted by Daisym on October 20, 2007, at 12:27:32
In reply to Update on pdoc **csa**, posted by antigua3 on October 20, 2007, at 7:43:09
What does you therapist say about weekly appointments with the pdoc? I can see how it would be helpful for awhile, especially since you are being so brave and exploring the here-and-now of your relationship with him. I think this is powerful and important.
I like his question a lot, "Why would he hurt you?" It goes to the core of the abuse issues - "why? -- why me? --- etc." It also speaks to the absolute human need to separate good from bad - are people good or bad?
I have no idea why he changed, unless you've helped him think of himself as your pdoc/therapist instead of just your pdoc. My pdoc does not do therapy with me (at my request) and he has said, "it is really hard for me to not jump in there therapuetically with you right now and challenge you on some of this." He wants to help but he holds himself back -- so maybe that was part of it? And I think he is finally getting you.
You seem to be making some great progress around this. It will be scary and you may indeed develop intense feelings. But you aren't alone -- you have your therapist to help you modulate what is happening and deal with whatever hurts come up.
I'm glad your last appointment was so productive.
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