Posted by muffled on October 10, 2007, at 13:42:28
In reply to Re: and this was only the last 10min of session! » happyflower, posted by B2chica on October 10, 2007, at 9:46:46
> well she tried to talk to each one and tell them it is ONLY ok to come forward in her office, not anywhere else. i think they honestly heard her. but i think they got mad. (didn't tell her that).
**OK, now this I don't entirely understand. It would make me angry too. Only thing I can figger is that T is trying to have control or something? at least initially?
I think if the others are willing to let you be there as well, and if they willing to behave, then why NOT let them have their time? I wonder if T could possibly rephrase what she said, and say something more validating to them? Like its good to come and see me in the office, and sometimes its Ok if its APPROPRIATE circumstances, to come out and visit, but they got to listen to adult B2 and behave, cuz they count too, and she would like them to be able to espress themselves sometimes, but it has to be appropriate and they goto listen adult B2 cuz she DOES usu know best.
Something like that?or mebbe you not ready for that yet?
I dunno, I just kinda think of how a kid will scream 'I hate you', to someone he doesn't hate, but in fact loves. He is expressing his pain. I just KNOW that the ones inside EXIST, they ARE. So when for eg B2, your teen expressess herself, I don't freak out, she is a person to me. She is real. She is herself. And she is so NOT crazy. She just is hurting. I also feel she's actaully really rather a smart cookie too. I hope she can have some calmer conversations with your T, cuz I bet once she gets more validation, she will calm down LOTS. She needs to be heard. She needs to know she is trusted. She needs to know she is a valuable part of you. She needs to know that you know that she exists in reality.
These are MY thots anyways. I do not mean to put words in her mouth, but this is how it is for me. That is what I mean.
> last thing she said, well after i dropped to the floor, she waited a few moments and leaned down and wispered thank you, thank you for doing your job...(she meant the old lady...explain later time). and then she said she will see me next week.*yup, protection...
> earlier she asked if i needed to see her sooner but little one was present and she said no, like always, she doesn't want to be a burden (like i think sometimes too).
**Its weird, but I not sure who I am mostly in T.
But I am the same way as you, I never want to be a prob...> i'm not sure what to do.
> i called her last night right before 5 (just double checked phone to see) and she never called last night. or this morning...i mean i don't want to call her again..*yeah I HATE to have to keep calling....did I tell you my mantra? T sucks...
> HF i'm sorry i'm goig to cut this short, i'm feeling anger build i think teen, also have an urge to eat pills...im guessing its her. luckily i forgot to bring them today. i think DH took them last night. i'm at work i'm gonna go dive into some MATLAB, maybe that will dull my senses for a while.
*thats a GREAT GREAT idea to get hubby to portion pills. Let him know the max dose/day.
> I ALREADY CALLED HER ONCE IF THATS NOT ENOUGH I'M NNNOOOTTTT F*CK*NG GONNA BEG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!*F*CK*NG NO WAY.
NO F*CK*NG BEGGING HERE EITHER.
WE DON"T *NEED* NOBODDY.
F*CK THAT.
But.... you could just call and say 'f*ck you' on her message machine....and if you kinda want her to call back...mebbe squeak out at the end...sorry please call....
And if she answers.....say the same....
I think for me, just I needed to know T existed. Sometimes I just had to hear her voice so I knew she existed. I proly would like to hear sweet words to that kid, but I don't think protection would allow her to hear them, they would be blocked from her.
B2, y'know, you sure remind me of me at times.....
I'm SO glad. NOT glad you hurt, but glad I not alone. And you OK, so mebbe I OK too?
Thanks.
M
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