Posted by muffled on October 7, 2007, at 23:16:10
In reply to Re: i am in hell ***SI triggers*** » rskontos, posted by Dory on October 7, 2007, at 14:55:13
I don't let people close IRL either.
But what I DO do.
Is just go out for a coffee with someone, and if they ask me hows it going, I might say in a joking way, 'well, I'm surviving'. And if they ask for more info, I just say, 'aww I be OK, always am' and laugh and change subject. I get them to talk bout themselfs, cuz people generally like to do that. And that takes the focus off me, so then I don't goto be worried bout protecting my walls.
But its being around another person, and reflecting empathy, and maybe they be happy at my kindness, and say 'hey, thanks' and then I feel gooder.
Or mebbe I will let slip a small nugget bout myself, if it seems safe, but that is rare.
So hugs/touch can be achieved by others needing it too, if not hugs to you for your pain, even if its for theirs, you can still feel the bonding, the touch of caring.
Or mebbe I fulla sh*t.
Proly am.
My eyes are brown after all....
Take care Dory.
And try and take care of wounds too.
M
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