Posted by rskontos on September 30, 2007, at 21:28:51
In reply to Re: Maybe I need a female T, I am sooo frusterated » happyflower, posted by gardenergirl on September 30, 2007, at 20:59:27
Happyflower, my mother messed up my childhood and I have tried very hard and succeeded in not messing up my daughter's and son's both are happy and doing well. So I understand how you feel about a T saying to see she is or was human. Mine explained it differently. But all in all it isn't how they choose to explain it, it is how it makes sense to you. It is how you live with or better yet how you can make it not matter in your life anymore. Lay it to rest maybe. I didn't have a T while I was raising my children, 19 and 14, I just didn't want to mess them up like I felt I was messed up. I worked hard. I don't know why my mother made the choices she and my father made. But I have had to work hard to make them not matter to me. Does this make sense. So if the way the T explains it to you and you try to talk it out keep trying for a while and then just discard it. I think the past cannot always be worked out. But you can make it not ruin your life and those around you. I hope this is relevant and makes sense. I have thought about it a long time in regards to my own life and sometimes my T makes great observations and insights and sometimes not so good. I work with those I can and discard those I can't. Not everything they give us will work for us and we must decide for ourselves and that I think will help us to stay whole through the process. To keep thinking for ourselves. I hope this helps if not just discard what I said too, LOL!!!!
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