Posted by gardenergirl on September 30, 2007, at 19:23:36
In reply to Maybe I need a female T, I am sooo frusterated!, posted by happyflower on September 30, 2007, at 17:45:26
It sounds like you've got a good topic for your session tomorrow---all these questions, feelings, and doubts. It's important for you to feel that you two are working towards the same agenda, and your question about whether he might be protecting colleagues is a valid one.
That said, it may be that he tends not to comment about your former T's behavior so that he can stay focused on what it means to you, i.e. how it's affecting you here and now. In addition, he may be aware that he's only hearing one side of the experiences. Your experiences are the ones that count as far as the work you two are doing together. But making a judgment about another professional's behavior really requires knowing more about the whole picture, imo. Finally, he may be concerned about splitting. If I were him, I would not want to position myself or contribute to being positioned as the "good" T and your former T as "the bad T". That may not be happening, but it's something that he should keep an eye peeled for. And the solution to that is to keep as neutral a position as possible so that he can be open to your experiences but not be drawn to one side.
Just my immediate reactions, influenced by cold medicine and pain, so keep that salt shaker handy...
Good luck tomorrow.
gg
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