Posted by happyflower on September 30, 2007, at 17:37:04
In reply to Re: My new T's resistance in this subject about old T » happyflower, posted by muffled on September 30, 2007, at 17:03:48
Yeah,
I get what you mean Muffy, your words are right on target. I believe I understand the being human thing, I just don't like being told that when I am in so much pain. For him to say that, it kinda feels he is dismissing what I am feeling, kinda like my pain isn't justifified on what happened to me.
Maybe I need a different T. I just get the feeling he is trying to protect my old T more than he is trying to help me. "the good old boys network of protection".
He doesn't seem to want to know everything that happened in my old T relastionship, well I think it is important for me to get it all out, and if I can't tell him, who can I tell? It is making feel like red flags are going up all over saying , don't trust this T.I feel like I have experienced some bad inhuman things as a child and if he is just going to use the term, we are all human, I can't see how this is going to be helpful to me. I can't imagaine telling a holocost victim of the concentration camps, that Hitler was only human. Does this make any sense to anyone.
It reminds me of certain relatives and people telling me my mom did the best she could. Well WTF? Maybe that is true, but am I suppose to just accept what happened to me. It just feels like my pain is unjustified. Like I am suppose to just suck it up and quite complaining or something. I am thinking I need to cancel tomorrow.
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