Posted by Nathan_Arizona on June 14, 2007, at 15:00:05
In reply to Please, I need help (about long-term T), posted by frida on June 14, 2007, at 13:48:39
Yeah, that's one of the things that kinda is bad about therapy, you've got to talk. You have to open up or it just really goes no where.
You really have to challenge yourself to do the things that scare you to death. I know I did. It took about three years for me to develop enough trust in my therapist to really start talking.
At first it was like pulling teeth, I felt as though I simply did not have the words to describe how I felt - that was a huge obstacle to get over for me - just simply learning to use words.
Then came the physical sensations of almost passing out, digging my fingernails in my palm, and never ending crying.
BUt I made it through and you know what? My therapist never let me down a single time. He was always there just like a rock in his chair. He didn't run away screaming, he didn't say "Wow you really are screwed up" and he never once judged me for what I said or felt.
Each time I opened up, the next time became a little easier. Each time he demonstrated to me that what I had to say wasn't going to kill either me or him we made a little bit more progress.
All he ever DID say was that "I am a better person for knowing your story" and "Thank-you for giving me the gift of your trust".
I think it is time that you start challenging yourself and opening up a little more in therapy. As you said, it is time to speak from your heart.
It takes practice and a whole lot of guts, but I know you can do it. Just take it one step at a time, one word at a time and get it all out.
It will help her to know that your therapy is progressing, but above all else, it will help you ten fold more.
Take care
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