Posted by Dinah on June 14, 2007, at 14:00:58
In reply to Please, I need help (about long-term T), posted by frida on June 14, 2007, at 13:48:39
I doubt that after all this time she would threaten to abandon you, and her behavior doesn't sound like someone threatening to abandon you.
So I think first I'd tell her what you heard her say and what you thought it meant, and then check back with her to see if that's really what she intended to say and to have you understand.
Many times I've interpreted things my therapist said in ways he did not intend. I think it's a highly charged atmosphere and it's easy enough to do. Especially if she was sick and not at her best in composing sentences.
If she really did say what you thought she said, all I have to say is... It seems silly for them to want to us to trust them enough to say the deepest darkest secrets in our hearts because we know that no matter what they won't abandon us for what we say, and then try to hurry it along by threatening to abandon us for not saying it.
If that makes any sense.
But...
I suspect that she did not mean that she was going to tell you that you couldn't come next year. She might have been expressing some frustration she might have been feeling more than usual because she wasn't feeling well.
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