Posted by Dinah on May 2, 2007, at 13:39:02
In reply to I've taken to taunting, posted by crushedout on May 2, 2007, at 8:38:23
My concern is that doing this is being connected to her, and being connected to her doesn't seem to be in your best interests.
You've got a relationship going with her right now. Not a great relationship, but a relationship. Is that what you want? It seems like you spent a lot of time getting *out* of relationship with her.
Very tempting, yes, and very understandable. You want her to understand so she won't hurt others. You probably want her to acknowledge how much she hurt you.
I hate to say this, crushed ((((crushed)))), but I don't think it's going to work. She's not going to see how much she hurt you. She's armored in defenses and denial. Only censure from someone above her is going to get through to her at all, and maybe not even that.
I think the message you're trying to send is probably not the message she's receiving. And I'm afraid you'll get hurt. Even more hurt.
((((crushed))))
Can you talk to your current therapist about this?
I think I'd have a very hard time not starting a dialogue with my therapist under these circumstances. I am very glad my therapist understands the responsibilities involved with a therapist being involved with the internet.
Don't you think maybe she should be reported over her injudicious behavior? That would be a less intimate way to make your point.
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