Posted by Rigby on May 2, 2007, at 13:23:46
In reply to I've taken to taunting, posted by crushedout on May 2, 2007, at 8:38:23
Wow. I came back to see what was up on these boards and saw this.
This sounds like it is *still* unresolved transference. You’re angry at how your therapy went for a variety of reasons. But chances are the deepest anger involves the fact that this woman did not become involved with you outside of therapy. Isn’t that why you chose your screen name to begin with?
Maybe seeing her in a more realistic light will blow the transference away but the process sounds unhealthy and mean spirited and I don’t think, at the end of the day, will make you feel good about your self and your life. Given the fact that you are doing it all anonymously must mean it's something you're not real proud of.
As others have mentioned, discuss, hash out, focus on your anger and your feelings with your existing therapist—figure out what it’s really about and maybe then it can eventually resolve. Otherwise this and any dynamic like it, will haunt you for a long time to come.
Best,
Rigby
> I'm not sure why I'm doing this but I've been commenting on my ex-T's blog (even though the first time my computer thwarted me and I took that as a sign).
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> She keeps deleting my comments so I called her out for that since one of her schticks is that everyone should feel free to express his or her own perspective. She deleted that one, too, but then she emailed me (still supposedly not knowing whom she's writing to).
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> I emailed her back and she emailed me and then I emailed her again. Then I posted another provocative comment on her blog.
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> I guess I feel like if she's going to do something so irresponsible and self-indulgent as have a blog, then well, I'm going to make her sorry she has one.
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> I know this probably doesn't all sound like it's good for me, but for some reason I'm getting a kick out of it. The sadist in me is really happy right now. Revenge is sweet.
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> Am I totally f*cked up?
> I'm not sure why I'm doing this but I've been commenting on my ex-T's blog (even though the first time my computer thwarted me and I took that as a sign).
>
> She keeps deleting my comments so I called her out for that since one of her schticks is that everyone should feel free to express his or her own perspective. She deleted that one, too, but then she emailed me (still supposedly not knowing whom she's writing to).
>
> I emailed her back and she emailed me and then I emailed her again. Then I posted another provocative comment on her blog.
>
> I guess I feel like if she's going to do something so irresponsible and self-indulgent as have a blog, then well, I'm going to make her sorry she has one.
>
> I know this probably doesn't all sound like it's good for me, but for some reason I'm getting a kick out of it. The sadist in me is really happy right now. Revenge is sweet.
>
> Am I totally f*cked up?
poster:Rigby
thread:755132
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