Posted by Daisym on February 25, 2007, at 19:47:38
In reply to Re: Is it him or me? » Daisym, posted by mair on February 23, 2007, at 22:26:28
You are welcome for the reminder. I'll think of you watching!
I think you are right - it isn't all me. But when I can verbalize what I need, it is easier for him to give it to me. And easier for him to also make the leap to what I need that I'm not able to say.
I agree that he doesn't send out signals that he is sick of me. I project it all over him - until sometimes he will say, "I'm not your mother -- or your dad!" Most of the time he just reminds me that he keeps showing up and so far we've managed to get through a lot of hard stuff. I'm just so sick of having to get through it, you know?
I'm glad you didn't think the visual images were silly. (I'm thinking lots of people did, so didn't reply, which is fine.) It has helped to be able to "see" him. More than that, the fact that he acknowledged how important it is for me to "feel" him right now and helped me with it, helps me believe that it really is Ok with him that I'm this attached to him. I keep describing myself as a barnacle. He says it is a step up from the albastross I used to call myself.
I've been keeping you and your therapist in my prayers. Scary stuff. My heart goes out to you.
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