Posted by Daisym on November 7, 2006, at 23:25:30
In reply to Unconditional acceptance, posted by annierose on November 7, 2006, at 20:06:44
Annie -- I'm sorry things are so tough. I think you can and should get the support you need right now. Is it transference? Probably partly. Given all the stress and all the emotions you are holding inside, everything is likely to feel like a criticism. And since she can't really fix it all, it is likely to feel like she doesn't care to try.
But all that said...you have worked together long enough for her to try harder to open things up and help you get some of those tears out. Interpreting right now isn't helpful. You need validation, support and you need to feel her caring. You have been around this part of the circle before, so I hope you can work it out.
I think you are very brave to go back on Friday. I wanted to run away from my own therapist two weeks ago, as you well know. But I didn't. I wrote it all down, about why I wanted to leave and I told him how I was feeling. It took a lot of tears, but then there was this big insight - showing him why what he was doing felt hurtful to me, and showing me why I was feeling like he no longer cared about me. It was hard though and I wanted to give up on therapy pretty badly.
Don't forget that you can get unconditional support here too. We are with you.
Hugs,
Daisy
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