Posted by Dinah on November 7, 2006, at 21:46:03
In reply to Re: Unconditional acceptance » annierose, posted by fires on November 7, 2006, at 21:32:13
In the great scheme of things, fires, I probably would agree with you. I don't believe in unconditional acceptance even from parents. If you're awful enough you can kill anyone's love.
But unconditional acceptance at times in an intimate relationship isn't too much to ask, IMO. There might be a time in a marriage, for example, to air grievances or complain about leaving the tie off the bread. But there are other times when what's called for is love and acceptance, and one person telling another that dried out bread and all, that they are loveable and loved. In a long term therapy relationship, it might not be dried out bread, or love expressed. But it's the same thing. Ditto for friendship.
Some people don't believe in that sort of therapy, but that doesn't negate its value for others.
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