Posted by Lindenblüte on November 7, 2006, at 22:14:49
In reply to Re: Unconditional acceptance » annierose, posted by fires on November 7, 2006, at 21:32:13
I don't even need UNCONDITIONAL acceptance. Some simple regular acceptance goes a long way.
Maybe we hold our T's to a tough standard. Of course there are conditions. We cannot expect our T's to accept us if they become afraid of us. We cannot expect our T's to accept us if we never pay them. We cannot expect our T's to accept us if we refuse to talk. We cannot expect our T's to accept us if we wear earplugs and close our eyes during the session.
My T today is unaccepting of the circumstances which cause the session prior to mine to end consistently 5-10 minutes late. I even heard raised voices as the hour turned from -59 to -00 (subdued by the sound of the ventilation...!)
I think it's very important for a T to accept a good part of us, and accept that the good part of us can learn to work with the less-good parts and eventually overcome our less-good parts. Accept that in the meanwhile, the less-good parts of us are still a part of their client, and as such, deserve some, if not MORE respect that the parts which are thriving. Accept us for who we are today, and accept us for what we wish to become.
that's all I need. conditions are important. conditions keep us all safe.
-Li
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