Posted by littleone on October 17, 2006, at 21:51:06
In reply to Meeting a nurturing/mothering need, posted by littleone on October 17, 2006, at 15:26:05
Thank you for your replies.
I've done some of the things that you suggested as part of learning to soothe and comfort myself. And I find them invaluable. They do help the young part a lot to cope with emotions especially.
I guess I see the nurturing/mothering need different to that. I guess nurturing/mothering is the behaviour and the actual needs met would be the need to feel loved, the need to feel accepted, the need to feel a sense of belonging and others that I'm having trouble articulating.
I'm not really sure that you can get those things from self soothing.
And I have a lot of trouble mothering myself. Maybe because it wasn't demonstrated to me. I can organise things so that the young parts are able to do young things they enjoy and find helpful. But I can't really nurture them as such. I just don't know how to do that. I don't know how to talk to them (or anyone for that matter) in a nurturing and compassionate way.
I'm sure you guys would be able to see that from the way I post here. I think that's one of the broken things inside me.
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