Posted by littleone on October 17, 2006, at 15:26:05
I had a very important and hard session the other day. And it went very well. I did real good. Talked a lot and stayed there the whole time. Didn't get lost in the fog. Did really well.
We talked about why I have found several interactions and relationships so dissatisfying. I was able to admit to myself and my T exactly what a satisfying interaction would have looked like.
Basically my young part goes in hoping for some close and nurturing mothering and instead the other person only really interacts with my adult self. So the young part is left feeling dissatisfied and upset.
We ended up talking about what it would be like to have some close and nurturing mothering from various people and how this need could be filled in a healthy way.
He suggested having an aunty hold me and read me a story. I mentioned how antiga uses a teddy or doll as a tangible representation of her young self and then nurtures that (he thought was a wonderful idea antiga).
I've learnt various ways to soothe and comfort myself, but I'm at a bit of a loss as to how to get the nurturing/mothering need met. What healthy ways have you guys found to address this need?
Also, has anyone ever tried (as an adult) going back to a parent or other adult and requesting a child like interaction?
I must admit that this all feels very bad and wrong to me. I had always thought that the idea was to identify that you have this need, then understand how you are trying to get it met in your life, then you have to learn ways to get by without it. But my T doesn't seem to agree with that.
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