Posted by Racer on October 7, 2006, at 19:08:04
In reply to Problems can be fixed » Phillipa, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2006, at 12:43:26
Well, Phillipa, what do you think?
How do you define "helping you" with your problems? If you're defining it as making you 35 again, I've got some bad news for you.
On the other hand, if you're looking for help coming to terms with reality, that's a different story. There's a good chance that you're going to have to do a lot of very painful grieving -- over things like the fact that you'll never be 35 again, for instance -- but once you get past the pain of facing that reality, you'll learn new ways to be 60 that might be a lot less painful for you.
For one thing, I'll bet a therapist would suggest something like FINDING the friends, hobbies, interests that might give you more satisfaction than going to watch your husband paint boats seems to. That is an option for you, you know. You have options, and a good therapist could help you figure out which are most attractive, and how to overcome your own resistance to them.
Good luck. I hope you find someone good.
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