Posted by muffled on October 2, 2006, at 11:18:22
In reply to Re: Do you believe this? » muffled, posted by alexandra_k on October 1, 2006, at 23:53:27
> Hmm...
> <pout>
> How did you get to know me so well...
> <cross look>
> Well... I guess I can't argue with that...
> ;-)***LOL
> I'm a bit scared of showing her my emotions. Because sometimes... They are very strong. And people find that aversive. Hell... *I* find that aversive. I guess I shouldn't assume that she will find it aversive... But it is part of people generally and our culture in particular to find intense emotions to be aversive - isn't it?***I think its part of our culture to hide emotions too much....
When they hidden they have more power, when they out in the light of day, they look different, not so mysterious.
Maybe you could say you want to understand your emtions better, and your frightened of the intensity of your emotions....> I'm not sure how she copes with the bits of emotions I've shown her. I remember one time she looked really very surprised... I was fine... Then I started raving about something for maybe 20 seconds and was kinda wound up with tears streaming... And then I freaked a bit and pulled myself together and was back to calm. All in the space of about 30 seconds.
***And did you guys talk about that? About the fact you felt she looked surprized? And maybe how that made you feel?
Or did you talk about why you HAD to suck yourself back in so quickly?
Those are little doorways that sometimes lead to other more important stuff....
S'all good...
>
> I remember one of my t's... I was reading my file and she had wrote (on the basis of a single meeting) INTENSE and she underlined it about 4 times so strongly she almost ripped a whole in the page.*******Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!
Thats a bit of a peeve of mine. People making assumptions about people on very short notice.....REALLY pisses me off.....
I think you CAN be very intense. Sometimes our greatest gifts are our hardest challenges. I think your intensity is a gift, you just goto get a handle on it, cuz its a powerful gift. You could do lots of good things with your intensity...
> I... I don't know what to say...
>
> Sometimes... I find it hard to talk. I wouldn't say anything at all... T's don't like that :-( So I've learned to talk. But I talk about... Stuff that doesn't matter. What matters? I don't know. How to get to what matters? I don't know. Sometimes I think something matters and then I say it and it doesn't seem to matter. I don't know. Confused...***See thats the thing, sometimes its the most innocuous things that lead to the greatest insights.
Sometimes something I think is SO important....is nothing. Its a voyage of learning and growing.
I wonder if you are very adroitly sidestepping and redirecting conversation when it gets too close to where you don't want to go..... I dunno.
>
> > Take care Alex, you a feisty little sweetie you are!!! :-)
> > Muffled
>
> Thanks muffled.
> ((((muffled))))
> I wish I wasn't feisty :-(
> I'd rather be... Kind.
> Take care.
>
***But Alex you ARE kind. Its like I always trust that you are genuine in your caring, that no matter how involved in a debate etc you get, you will always come down to baseline and be very careful to apologise and make sure you have hurt noone. I have seen this again and again. I think feisty is GOOD. You are feisty AND very caring.
Take care,
Muffled
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