Posted by Lindenblüte on September 27, 2006, at 15:38:17
In reply to Re: I screwed up..., posted by happyflower on September 27, 2006, at 13:11:01
Hi TG
who are you upset at?
yourself (why?)
her (why?)
anybody else? (why?)what part of the upset is reasonable, and what part is exaggerated?
I guess if you can answer those questions, you'll be healed. lol
My advice to you is to handle the phone call by practicing what you want to tell her. Will you apologize (if you feel you may have exaggerated your response?). Will you use the opportunity to explain what part of you is hurt, and why you are justified in feeling hurt?
Another option is to accept the fact that you have strong feelings about it, but you're not quite sure why or where they came from. That you value the work that you do together with T, and that you would like to talk about this event together with her, to try and figure out what it means.
-Li
p.s. sometimes we give good advice a hundred times before we realize that the same might possibly apply to us. It's okay to slip. Sorry if you're hurting too bad. I hope it's only a bruise, though.
poster:Lindenblüte
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