Posted by Daisym on September 4, 2006, at 12:41:57
In reply to Re: Therapy Hurts » daisym, posted by Dinah on September 1, 2006, at 21:27:16
*****What did you say when he said that?
*****I think I'd have squeaked something like "What phase is that? When did I change phases? Why didn't I get a diploma or something? You just can't go changing phases without telling a client! There needs to be a line of demarcation."
******But I suppose it's healthier to feel good about your progress and your therapist's acknowledgement of it. :(******
What did I say? I apologized, of course. I should have known that I was "here" instead of "there" -- I was mortified. Inside I was squeaking everything you wrote, including "I knew it! I knew there was some secret set of rules about progress, etc." But it was at the end of the session so he didn't have much chance to pull that out of me.
I wish I felt proud of myself, and i wish this felt like progress. It simply feels like another one of those times where I've created drama and then bumped into a boundary wall that I didn't know was there. And that wall has a mirror on it, and I see that I've got a boger hanging out of my nose -- and instantly I know he has seen it hanging there for a while. So now what? I either pick my nose and get rid of it (in a ladylike way, of course) and we both know I am too embarrassed to talk about it or we talk about why he didn't tell me it was there and in my mortification I get angry. Neither appeal to me.
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