Posted by sunnydays on September 1, 2006, at 21:31:39
In reply to Therapy Hurts, posted by daisym on September 1, 2006, at 19:44:23
I would have been crushed by those words too. I was hurt when I said I wished my mom was normal, and my T said, "Well, I think that's the little girl part of you talking and thinking magically, what do you think you can do concretely to try to normalize your relationship with your mother?" I just felt like he was saying I wasn't allowed to wish that. Lately he's been really challenging anything I say where I am asking questions like "Why is my life so hard? Why can't my family be normal?" because the asking stage is kinding of making me stuck from making any changes.
And I've asked my T a hundred times if he's sick of me, and he keeps saying no, and then I worry he's going to be sick of me for asking if he's sick of me. He's been talking a lot about my need to do therapy 'right' lately and telling me that there is no right way to do therapy, or some days he just tells me I am doing fine, there is no wrong way to do it, I'm trying really hard, etc.
Well, this post turned into all about me, but I just wanted to let you know I understand. And the 'supposed tos' and the 'shoulds' are really hard. And it's really hard when you want to do therapy right but there are no rules.
(((((((daisym))))))))
sunnydays
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