Posted by Daisym on September 4, 2006, at 11:32:53
In reply to Re: Therapy Hurts ... OUCH!! » daisym, posted by finelinebob on September 1, 2006, at 20:11:06
***Because you're peeling your "onion" of defense mechanisms and maladaptive behaviors that got you to where you are today.****
I read recently that "problem" behaviors were "solution" behaviors, once upon a time. Which is why they are so hard to change...they served an important, most likely protective purpose. My son's therapist uses the metaphor of the onion often quoting Shrek: "Ogres are like onions, we have LAYERS!"
***It all hurts. But like setting a compound fracture or a dislocated shoulder, it has to hurt before it can get better ... unless you (self-)medicate until you're numb. I'd rather take the pain -- relying on that machotruism that as long as you're feeling pain, you know you're still alive. Plus, acknowledging pain is one thing, rooting out its source is quite another. ****
I'm pretty clear about the source these days. I've protected myself for so long that I'm in no-man's-land, lost and struggling to trust my guides along the way. I want my guides to carry me but they can't or they will die too. I'm pretty good most of the time with the pain. But this weekend I've elected to numb. Too many hits all at the same time. Maybe I don't want to feel because I have no need to confirm that I'm still alive. The question is, is this living?
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