Posted by caraher on August 30, 2006, at 19:10:05
In reply to Ouch my head hurts, posted by llrrrpp on August 30, 2006, at 16:44:26
> Oh, and I cried about how I can't tell my husband when I'll be ready to have a baby, because I want to have a PhD first? And I feel like all our plans as a couple and a family are resting on my ability to finish this f*cking PhD. Hmm. gee, I wonder why I'm depressed. Well. Have a baby, buy a house, get a job. When did this become so stressful? I used to look forward to this stuff.
It's hard to finish a PhD... is there some special reason you need to tell him an "exact date?" Isn't just agreeing on a reasonable sequence of plans good enough? I guess I worry that you'll have trouble finishing your degree if you make it seem like too big a thing. If you're constantly thinking, "My whole future depends on getting this done soon!" that's too much pressure, as well as distorted thinking.
One nice thing about seeing a psychologist as a T when you're a grad student - they've done a PhD, too! My T used to talk about how much she hated her dissertation...
How far along are you? You might want to check out this support board for people trying to finish: http://www.phinished.org/
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