Posted by llrrrpp on August 30, 2006, at 16:17:00
In reply to meltdown **triggers, posted by ElaineM on August 30, 2006, at 15:52:15
Oh Elaine-
you are so human. You can feel love. You know what it is. T can't force you to feel love for him. You're not a bad evil person because you can't love him back. Sometimes it just doesn't work that way. Sometimes we break others' hearts, and get our hearts broken too.The only difference is that your T is trying to pull some midieval alchemy on you, and trying to MAKE you fall in love with him. acting sweet, helping you out, giving you extra time and extra services.
He's a T for God's sake. He is not some wizard that can make people fall in love with him. It just doesn't work that way!
And it's not your fault. You're not evil for causing HIM to behave a certain way. He can/should/must be able to handle it, or else find a better T for you.
The worst is that he's being so selfish. As a psychologist (or therapist- whatever) he ought to keep YOUR feelings in mind. YOUR feelings are first and utmost priority. He writes an e-mail that's so distressing to a woman who he knows is vulnerable? That's not love, that's cruelty.
I don't want anybody to hurt my friend (((Elaine))). It's time for her to heal.
-ll
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