Posted by wishingstar on July 12, 2006, at 16:40:51
In reply to Re: am I expecting too much?, posted by Jost on July 12, 2006, at 10:53:42
That's a good point. My new Ts theory (temporary T) seems to be that it's my needs that are the problem, not her ability to meet needs... I dont feel like I'm asking for a lot though. I've only called asking for support or to talk 3 times in 1+ year. That doesnt feel unreasonable to me. But maybe it is to her. But if it is, why would she have given me her cell number a year ago? What have I done wrong since then? All rhetorical questions, of course.
I think you said one thing that really hit the issue on the head.. I just dont feel safe with her anymore. I dont feel like I can trust her, or that she cares, and consequently, not safe in the least. For 15 years growing up, I thought my parents were just fine and loving (just assumed) until one day in high school, I was proved very wrong. I have a huge fear that others will just change on me too. T is triggering that big time. I may write a letter, but I dont feel like I can call her again right now. I dont know if it'd be the right thing to do, and I really cant handle another rejection from her right now.
Thanks for your ideas.. your responses always give me something to think about. If you run across any magic potions, let me know asap. :)
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