Posted by sleepygirl on July 9, 2006, at 20:25:46
In reply to being manipulative versus honest, posted by wishingstar on July 9, 2006, at 20:05:59
dammit! I just typed a whole post then lost it :-(
I attached a link to an article I'm reading (if the link works and anyone is interested)
as for now I don't like the word manipulative, so at the moment I'm thinking that most of the time people might not ask for what they really want/need, either because they don't know what they really want/need, and/or because they are afraid to ask for it or it's something impossible or very difficult to get (ex. assurance that someone will always be there to take care of things)
I don't know, but I hope you won't despair too much, sounds like what might need to be discussed, and sounds like some things can get figured out.
Be gentle with yourself,
sg
http://www.psybc.com/pdfs/library/What_is_Manipulative_Behavior_Anyway.pdf
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