Posted by llrrrpp on June 30, 2006, at 16:54:16
In reply to Re: yesterday at the clinic **triggers** » llrrrpp, posted by ElaineM on June 30, 2006, at 15:31:01
Hi El,
I'm sorry to hear that you're going through medical problems on top of everything else right now. That must be overwhelming ((((((((Elaine))))))))Maybe some behavioral modifications can help you sleep a little better? Warm bath before bed, some progressive relaxation exercises. I'm sure you know a lot of tricks. I just want you to get some comfort somewhere, somehow.
Anorexia can be a devastating disease for friendships. I understand if it's hard for you to rekindle lost relationships. Maybe it's a good time for you to call your two friends this weekend, just for a quick chat- update on their lives and such. I have friends all over the country too, and it can be really hard to stay in touch, but I bet they would enjoy hearing from you.
I'm so happy that your sister is coming to visit you. That will be good for you :)
I hope that you realize that the same reasons you are giving me for staying with your T are given by women in abusive relationships. My sister-in-law left her ex after 8 years of physical and psychological abuse. She said the turning point was when she was abusing alcohol and avoiding all of her friends because of bruises. The cops came to their apt one night and a woman cop pulled her aside and said that if she didn't leave him, she was going to die young.
My S-I-L said a lot of things similar to what you wrote. That she was an immigrant, didn't know anyone else, was going through some rough issues with her family, and cultural issues, etc. And that he was the only one who was there for her. He was the only one that cared for her, and that he needed her,a nd she had to take care of him.
Doesn't make a whole lot of sense in hindsight, but that's the illusion. A powerful illusion that even strong people succomb to. My S-I-L is a very stubborn, smart, hard-working and sensible person. That's why I know- that if it can happen to HER, it can happen to anyone. It's not your fault. But it is your responsibility to deal with it. I'm sorry it's such a big responsibility. Keep taking steps to find a new long-term therapy solution, especially since you don't respond well to medication. And know that we care about you (no acting! I'm a terrible actor!)
Keep yourself safe, and have a nice weekend with your sister :)
yours,
-ll
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