Posted by fairywings on June 3, 2006, at 16:12:53
In reply to Is it always more important to talk about it?, posted by All Done on May 31, 2006, at 1:03:47
I admire you for being so open with your T. Sometimes it's so hard to ask questions like that...it feels kind of vulnerable. So, do you talk about babble - I mean does your T know it's "Babble"?
My T and I don't talk too much about "how it would feel to..." ...we talk about "how is it to..." I think maybe because I'm kind of out of touch with myself. He shares things with me about himself - it makes it more real for me, like maybe I could actually have a close relationship with someone sometime. Since I have trouble relating I think it's good for me, but it does make me feel more deficient sometimes ...because I admire him so much - like you said, I want to be more like him. You didn't say this, but I want to be more like him, and less like me. He says he's modeling good behavior, so I guess it's a good thing that I want to be more like him.
My T hugged me once....I was really taken by surprise, but it was such a nice gesture. The issue of hugs had come up on babble just before that...so it was on my mind anyway - wondering how it would feel. I remember him asking, I remember afterward, but I don't remember much about the actual hug. It was very special to me....like some of the really nice things he's said, or the special feelings I get.
I'm glad he hugged me when he did....maybe he wouldn't now because of some of the things that have come up recently. LOL I think I'll bring it up and see what he says. Your post, and the replies, have been real food for thought - which is so much better for me than the ice cream I was thinking about having! ; )
fw
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