Posted by All Done on June 10, 2006, at 1:19:19
In reply to Re: Is it always more important to talk about it? » All Done, posted by fairywings on June 3, 2006, at 16:12:53
> I admire you for being so open with your T. Sometimes it's so hard to ask questions like that...it feels kind of vulnerable. So, do you talk about babble - I mean does your T know it's "Babble"?
Thanks. The more I tell him, the easier it gets (umm...for the most part). He knows I post on a message board for mental health. I tell him about specific posts and I refer to my friends, but he doesn't know it's "Babble". At least, not the last time I asked him. It was a while ago. He may have figured it out by now, if he wanted to.
> My T and I don't talk too much about "how it would feel to..." ...we talk about "how is it to..." I think maybe because I'm kind of out of touch with myself. He shares things with me about himself - it makes it more real for me, like maybe I could actually have a close relationship with someone sometime. Since I have trouble relating I think it's good for me, but it does make me feel more deficient sometimes ...because I admire him so much - like you said, I want to be more like him. You didn't say this, but I want to be more like him, and less like me. He says he's modeling good behavior, so I guess it's a good thing that I want to be more like him.I wonder if, as you get more in touch with yourself, you'll find there are things about *you* that you admire. :-)
> My T hugged me once....I was really taken by surprise, but it was such a nice gesture. The issue of hugs had come up on babble just before that...so it was on my mind anyway - wondering how it would feel. I remember him asking, I remember afterward, but I don't remember much about the actual hug. It was very special to me....like some of the really nice things he's said, or the special feelings I get.
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> I'm glad he hugged me when he did....maybe he wouldn't now because of some of the things that have come up recently. LOL I think I'll bring it up and see what he says. Your post, and the replies, have been real food for thought - which is so much better for me than the ice cream I was thinking about having! ; )
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> fwHave you discussed it with him, yet? It sounds like you have a very caring T.
When you do bring it up, I'll have a bowl of ice cream waiting for you. :-)
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