Re: Is it always more important to talk about it? » fallsfall

Posted by All Done on May 31, 2006, at 13:32:14

In reply to Re: Is it always more important to talk about it?, posted by fallsfall on May 31, 2006, at 8:48:26

> You can get answers and hugs from everyone else in the world.
I know and I do. They just aren’t the same. I think that’s kind of like telling someone who needs moisturizing soap for dry skin that they can only find at a beauty store that they can get regular Dial at the grocery store. Yeah, it’ll get them clean, but their skin will still be crying out for moisture.

> Therapy is the only place that you look at the questions and requests.
You must not live in my head. ;)
I guess I’m saying it’s hard to do that *all* of the time.

> Therapy also teaches us to wait and to accept that some things can never be.
But some things *can be*, no?

> My therapist has showed me that it is possible to say no with complete compassion. It is the same compassion that I had when my babies had to get a shot at the doctor's.
Nice comparison. :) I’ve seen that look on my T’s face, as well. And I have no doubt, he would make it as easy as he could, if he said no to my request for a hug. I’m just really wondering how long I want to talk about what it would mean to get a hug versus actually asking him for one (if I ever decide to ask).

> I don't want to trade the specialness of therapy for a hug.
Does it have to be a trade off? Is there a possibility it could add to the specialness of therapy?

Sorry, falls, I'm sounding defensive or argumentative or something. Just looking to talk it all out.
Hugs, :)
Laurie

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Is it always more important to talk about it? All Done 5/31/06
Re: Is it always more important to talk about it? antigua 5/31/06
Re: Is it always more important to talk about it? » All Done annierose 5/31/06
Re: Is it always more important to talk about it? fallsfall 5/31/06
Re: Is it always more important to talk about it? » All Done Dinah 5/31/06
Re: Is it always more important to talk about it? » All Done Larry Hoover 5/31/06
Re: Is it always more important to talk about it? » antigua All Done 5/31/06
Re: Is it always more important to talk about it? » annierose All Done 5/31/06
Re: Is it always more important to talk about it? » fallsfall All Done 5/31/06
Re: Is it always more important to talk about it? » Dinah All Done 5/31/06
Re: Is it always more important to talk about it? » Larry Hoover All Done 5/31/06
Re: Is it always more important to talk about it? Dinah 5/31/06
My Therapist's Answer Daisym 6/1/06
Re: Is it always more important to talk about it? » All Done annierose 6/1/06
Re: Is it always more important to talk about it? Â» All Done fallsfall 6/2/06
Re: Is it always more important to talk about it? » All Done fairywings 6/3/06
Re: Is it always more important to talk about it? All Done 6/10/06
Re: Is it always more important to talk about it? » Dinah All Done 6/10/06
Re: My Therapist's Answer » Daisym All Done 6/10/06
Re: Is it always more important to talk about it? » annierose All Done 6/10/06
Re: Thanks, (((((falls))))) (nm) » fallsfall All Done 6/10/06
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