Posted by fairywings on May 31, 2006, at 21:01:42
In reply to Re: I am back from therapy , » orchid, posted by happyflower on May 31, 2006, at 20:24:38
(((HF)))
I'd like to take the other side of the coin...
I think it's sometimes good to be attracted to another person who's "off limits" - it can hurt, but it can be motivational too. You're running - would you be doing that if you hadn't be motivated? You've got to feel much better about yourself just because of that one thing alone, let alone all the other benefits you've gotten from the relationship. I started running because I had a crush on someone else years ago - the other person is gone, it hurt terribly at first, now I'm okay with it, but I feel a lot better about myself when I run/exercise. Ultimately it was good for me.I also think I post more when I'm upset about how therapy went, and sometimes the good stuff is glossed over. It's harder to forget the difficult times, and it feels so good to get the encouragement I get from babblers to move forward with the face to face relationship with my T when I feel like I can't face him, or I'm afraid to say something to him. And of course talking with him about how I FEEL about HIM I could NEVER, EVER do w/o the support I get here!Having this level of relationship with someone IRL is a huge accomplishment for me. Maybe you too?
My T is really helpful too, but from some of my posts you wouldn't think so. In one of our first appts. he said that really listening to me would be really good for me, and although I find so much of what he says helpful, it IS that he really listens to me, draws me out, makes me think about things I otherwise wouldn't. The fact that I feel he genuinely cares about me has made the biggest difference for me though. I never thought I could open up to someone like I have to him..... and of course the longer I know him, the more I care for him....I think it's only natural to feel love for our T's. I know some people don't, and some people see it more as a parental feeling, but it's okay whatever you feel toward him.
I hope you'll keep sharing the ups and downs and not feel like you can't.
Hugs,
fw
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