Posted by orchid on May 31, 2006, at 12:52:34
In reply to I am back from therapy , long with triggers** » LadyBug, posted by happyflower on May 31, 2006, at 11:33:59
Hi HF,
I have to ask before hand for any offense this post may cause you. I simply don't know how else to put it across.The truth is, I really think your T is not very helpful to you. I know that you want to protect him and have been helped by him before, and you think he is really one of the best Ts around, but in so far as the past year and a half of reading his responses to you, I do not think, there has ever been one single instance, in which his response to you was excellent or insightful or extremely helpful to you. He has given you only ordinary comment like be happy, do something productive etc etc - which any ordinary person trained a little bit in psychology would have been able to give you. I know he has listened to you and that itself helped you, but I think all the good things that you have got out of your therapy actually comes from the fact that you are attracted to him and the happy feeling that the attraction gives you. That is why you end up going on a roller coaster. In fact, I think if you continue with your T, it would end up messing you up more. I mean, look at it objectively. Do you think his responses to you are even comparable to the responses and insights that you get here, like say from Tamar? Does he even give you any insight? No - he only acts defensive all the time, and at best confuses you with his actions.
This is my honest and sincere opinion, and one that hasn't changed for more than a year. OF course, I do not presume that I know everything about your sessions or your T, but I have been having this not so good feeling about your T for more than a year, and if you remember, I even warned you a very long time back.
IMHO, you will do much better, if you find some other T in your university, and who can really help you. You have done a tremendous job of picking up yourself every time you fall down, and it deserves a lot of credit, but I don't think your T ever really helped you to pick yourself up and stand up.
Again, this post probably is very brutally honest, and I hope you will take it as my attempt to give you what I think is the right advice. I could be wrong, but again and again, I get the impression from reading your posts that your T is not very helpful to you - in fact I think he is doing you more harm.
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