Posted by happyflower on May 31, 2006, at 20:24:38
In reply to Re: I am back from therapy , long with triggers** » happyflower, posted by orchid on May 31, 2006, at 12:52:34
** I do not think, there has ever been one single instance, in which his response to you was excellent or insightful or extremely helpful to you. He has given you only ordinary comment like be happy, do something productive etc etc - which any ordinary person trained a little bit in psychology would have been able to give you.
Orchid, I appreciate your post, and I am thinking maybe others are thinking the same thing since I haven't got any other responses.
But your post about my T is very much mistaken but you can have your view if you like. I believe you are underestimating my T a lot. Maybe I have been posting mostly the negative or controvesial stuff and not enough of the good stuff he does. I believe he is very good, I know him well, he has a kind heart, I have seen it, I don't post about it much though. He was almost in tears today. But he has given me a lot of excellent responses, several in most sessions and his comments are not ordinary either, they are quite intelligent.
**but I think all the good things that you have got out of your therapy actually comes from the fact that you are attracted to him and the happy feeling that the attraction gives you.
He is attractive, but you are underestimating me this time. Yes he is fun, but the good things I have gotten out of therapy isn't because of my attraction, but from the hard work I am doing and I am not doing it for my T , I am doing it for me. I am creating my own happiness and he is helping me, but I am not that shallow to be in therapy just to see him and I am doing a lot of hard work, not just googoo eyeing him during the session. He isn't the only man who has been attracted to me or I have been attracted to.
** That is Does he even give you any insight? No - he only acts defensive all the time, and at best confuses you with his actions.
He isn't defensive ALL THE TIME in fact I don't think he is defensive, I think I am mostly, and yes he has given me many insites into things. This is mainly what he does with me. I do admit I do become confused by friend -like- behavior. But he has changed a lot of this in my last 2 appointments. He has cut his self disclosure down quit a bit as per my wishes.
I appreciate your concern, but I feel I must set straight some of the stuff you are saying. Most of it I don't agree with, but that is okay.
** IMHO, you will do much better, if you find some other T in your university, and who can really help you. You have done a tremendous job of picking up yourself every time you fall down, and it deserves a lot of credit, but I don't think your T ever really helped you to pick yourself up and stand up.My T is really helping me and it is because of him and what he has done for me that I am picking myself up every time I fall. I think we work well together, but even in all relationships, there are kinks to work out. I have been in therapy for 1 1 /2 years, how long have you been in therapy? It is probably my fault for posting all the problems I am having, but a lot of the time it WAS me and not him. I guess if more people share the same view as you about all of this, then I will have to look deeper, but for now I feel confident in my T and I feel confident that he will be able to help me.
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