Posted by JenStar on March 7, 2006, at 13:41:43
In reply to When there's no place to focus upset, posted by Racer on March 7, 2006, at 13:20:37
hi Racer,
I don't know the answers, but I do get what you're feeling. I have some of the same concerns. In so many, many ways my parents were GREAT, but they didn't recogize signs of serious depression/anxiety disorder in me as a child (but how could they!? They were young. They didn't know. That stuff wasn't common knowledge! They did the best they could.)There are people who have wronged me, and for most of them, I can look at their behavior and "understand" it, even if I don't condone or forgive it. But it makes it harder to stay angry at them directly, and then I don't know what to do with my anger.
you're right, that leaves you with a huge amount of pent up rage with nowhere to go except inward.
I don't know what the answer is, but you're not alone. (I dn't know if that helps!) I think maybe it's OK to be angry at those people ANYWAY, even if you have understanding for their situation, and even if you love them. Part of you can still be angry at part of them. I suppose anger is the first step to recovery, right? Don't they say that? (I don't know, I'm asking myself too!)
JenStar
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