Posted by gardenergirl on January 26, 2006, at 14:56:30
In reply to p.s., posted by crushedout on January 26, 2006, at 12:55:17
> > More likely scenario would be: I see her, it's extremely disappointing and also stirs up all sorts of painful longings, and then I go back to my cave and lick my wounds. (am i a lion or a bat? i'm not sure.)
If I had to guess, I think I'd agree with you that this is likely to happen. Maybe not. I'd be very worried about her boundaries, though, given what you've shared with us in the past. So I think I'd advise you to stay away if you asked me what I thought (like how I tell you anyway?) ;)
Have you tried writing a letter to her? Even if you never sent it, doing this can help with closure. In grief work, writing a letter to the lost person and then reading it aloud to another person, perhaps your T, can really help. Sometimes it takes more than one letter as other unresolved feelings or questions come up.
I'm glad your current T is kind and caring. Another option is to sign a release for your current T to talk to your past T for her input, since you feel the old T "got you". Maybe she can share something that will be helpful to you now?
At any rate....((((((((crushed)))))))
I'm selfishly happy to see you back posting, although I'm sorry it's because you're still hurting from this.
Take care,
gg
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