Posted by Tamar on January 20, 2006, at 19:06:50
In reply to a different kind of therapy now, posted by Voce on January 19, 2006, at 22:49:15
Hi Voce,
I can understand your concerns. My initial instinct is to say that this man cannot possibly be objective with you if he works closely with your father. (I learned that lesson the hard way when I talked frankly to my mother’s pdoc 18 years ago…)
My view is: the counsellor’s role should be to help you identify any problem areas in your relationship and get you to think about where the difficulties may arise. And that makes a lot of sense for many couples. On the other hand, you have been in therapy; you have probably developed an ability to think psychologically that many other women about to marry have no idea of.
My advice would be: don’t share anything you feel uncomfortable with. And if the counsellor asks you a lot of questions you don’t want to answer, tell him you have prayed about your family history together with your fiancé, and some things are between the two of you and God. I don’t know if your church adheres to the doctrine of the priesthood of all believers (many Protestant churches do; Catholic churches don’t) but if so, I think you’re within your rights to insist that discussion of some aspects of your past is limited to your personal relationship with God.
Just my two cents.
Tamar
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