Posted by JenStar on January 20, 2006, at 13:03:45
In reply to Re: a different kind of therapy now, posted by Voce on January 20, 2006, at 1:03:02
hi Voce,
I hear all the things you are saying - it sounds like a complex situation. :) I understand that you have to get counseling, of course, to get married in the church. Would it be possible to ask for special circumstances and get a conselor from another church, or do it in some other program, as long as the basic needs of the program are fulfilled? I know it's "out of the system", but really, aren't churches and parishes supposed to be about individualized help, not forcing people to conform?I know the answer might end up being 'NO.' But if it were me, I might consider asking. :)
You should of course do what feels right. What are you leaning towards? Do you think you'll end up sticking with this guy? Do you think you'll end up disclosing lots of personal stuff?
Quite possibly it will all be fine, too!
About your earlier question, I think it would be OK to cry in a session if you need to. And I'm sure your hubby-to-be will be kind and supportive! If there are things that make you cry, or things that make you extremely emotional, I think it's OK to let that show.
good luck. And congrats again on your upcoming marriage! :)
JenStar
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