Posted by Voce on January 20, 2006, at 1:03:02
In reply to Re: a different kind of therapy now » Voce, posted by JenStar on January 19, 2006, at 23:25:18
<would it be OK to ask for someone who doesn't know your dad so well?>
There ISN'T anyone else I would feel more comfortable with...there is one other person on staff who does pre-marital, and he used to be my youth pastor. He and I never saw eye to eye. He's kind of cold and unfeeling. I would feel less comfortable with him.
<Do you trust this guy?>
Kinda. Sorta. I don't really trust *anyone* quickly with sensitive or personal issues. It just feels weird because he knows my dad so well and most likely has a pre-conceived notion of what our lives are like. He doesn't experience the side of my family that I do...
To be fair, I don't have any reason NOT to trust him.
<If you don't think this guy is 100% trustworthy, or that he might not be the right person with whom to disclose family history because it might be "weird", then don't do it.>
If I want to be married in my church, by my pastor, then I have to do this.
<it's a VOLUNTARY thing. If you're starting to feel pressured into disclosing things you shouldn't/don't want to, or if you're talking about personal family stuff that doesn't feel right, then don't do it.>
I have to do this in some way, shape or form. The question is how.
<He's not a therapist, who has taken an oath to protect your privacy.>
He is an MFT, licensed by the state, who happens to be employed through the church as pastor of membership care. He is obligated to protect our privacy from others, including family. But that doesn't negate the weirdness factor.
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