Posted by Dinah on January 20, 2006, at 9:27:52
In reply to Re: a different kind of therapy now » Dinah, posted by Voce on January 20, 2006, at 1:06:50
> <and we got one of our favorite sayings from there: "There's more here than asparagus.">
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> Hehe, what does THAT mean?I think the story went something like "My husband and I were shopping, and we ran across a man and woman in the frozen vegetables section having a loud and animated argument over what brand of asparagus to buy. My husband and I looked at each other uncomfortably and chose a different aisle. And my husband said "There's more there than asparagus."
For some reason that expression stuck with us, and we now use it any time we catch ourselves (or others) apparently getting more upset, or behaving more extremely, than the situation would seem to warrant.
> <But mostly we just congratulated ourselves on how much we'd already done this stuff on our own.>
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> Yeah. We've been together 5 years, and not easy ones at that. But I am so very proud of us. The counsellor asked if we had any regrets in our relationship. He said no, and I said no and added that we did the best we could with what we had, and that I couldn't really regret anything. We always do our best, even when we're just two stupid people trying to get along.
>That sounds pretty wise. My husband and I were actually pretty insufferable when I look back on it. Not in public, of course. But we'd been together for soooo many years that we knew pretty much all of the answers to our exercises. And since marriage is a pretty big step, I guess it made us feel giddily reassured that we were ready for it, and rather surprised that anyone about to be married hadn't discussed how many children they wanted, or whether they believed in corporal punishment, or how much time together they wanted to spend. Of course, pride cometh before a fall, and all that. We discovered that even after all those years there were a fair number of things we didn't know because they just didn't apply until after marriage. But now that we've been married as long as we dated, I think we're starting to adapt to those much better than we did.
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