Posted by happyflower on January 10, 2006, at 17:31:27
In reply to Re: Talking about anger » happyflower, posted by daisym on January 10, 2006, at 15:44:57
> You do a much better job of expressing yourself in the moment than I do. I'm glad you were able to talk so frankly about what you've been feeling about him. Such an emotional roller-coaster.
Yeah, it was a roller coaster. I need to bring up some stuff, but first I needed just to connect with him. But I feel I also feel I have some fragile places too and it is scary. I just want to progress, not regress. So what, am I trying to be a perfect client? Well maybe, but I blew that theory out of the water when I called him a big jerk last week. LOL Stay with it, just talking about anger is a big step I think. I think anger is scary, it is like being out of control. It is very hard to express anger in a good way.
I even laughed at my T once at the gym when he had problems with a piece of equipment, and he got all mad and it looked like he threw a mini tantrum. LOL I told him about it this week seeing it, and he said well you should see when I am really mad. LOL I think he was very surprised that I noticed this. So I do think my T is a hot headed guy.(oh, yeah, he is just hot! lol) So I think it is a good thing to discuss, but I think most people have trouble dealing with anger on either end of it.
> My relationship with my therapist is strong yet it feels like there are these fragile places that could cave the whole thing in. He said it is an ongoing work in progress so it will change and adjust and feel good and bad. It is hard to take that in. It isn't what I'm use to.
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